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Author: Carolyn J. Woodruff

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My daughter Erin died two months ago of a drug overdose. She had a history of drug use and was always in and out of rehab. Erin was only thirty-five, and she lived with me. She was the mother of my only grandson

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Ask Carolyn: Feb. 2, 2024

Dear Carolyn, I am struggling with the finances in my divorce, and more particularly on whether to keep the marital residence. I live in the Oakridge section of Guilford County, where the homes are beautiful and expensive. I...

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Ask Carolyn: July 10, 2023

Dear Carolyn, I need an increase in child support and I just do not have the funds to pursue my need with an attorney. The father of my children lost his job during the pandemic and there was a reduction in child support. Now...

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Ask Carolyn: May 25, 2023

Dear Carolyn: I think my wife is having an affair. One of my friends said I should save the money on a detective and use an AirTag locating device. The friend thought I might slip one in her car and her purse. These only cost...

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Ask Carolyn: April 14, 2023

Dear Carolyn, I believe my wife is having an affair with the landscaper. She doesn’t work and is home all day. I suspect she is bringing this man into our home while I am at work and when this landscaper is supposed to work on...

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Ask Carolyn: Feb. 17, 2023

Dear Carolyn, I have to accept the fact that the father of my children is an alcoholic. I worry, I fret, but I cannot change him. He will not get help, but please know he hides his drinking well. The custody case is on the court...

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Ask Carolyn: Jan. 6, 2022

Dear Carolyn, Why did people drink so much alcohol on Dec. 31? My husband used the New Year as an opportunity to binge. I have become increasingly concerned about his drinking, which is becoming rather intolerable. He has...

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Ask Carolyn: Dec. 5, 2022

Dear Carolyn: As the holiday season approaches, one of my friends wants me to officiate at their wedding. The friend says this is done all the time. What do you think? Can I be the person to give the vows at my friend’s...

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Ask Carolyn: Feb. 16, 2022

Dear Carolyn I just moved to North Carolina, and I heard that North Carolina has alienation of affection – stealing someone’s spouse. I am 40, and recently single. I have a good job. I asked a lady I met at a bar to go out with...

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Ask Carolyn: August 8, 2022

Dear Carolyn: With school about to start, there are “puddles” of anxiety all around me.  Did I mention I am going through a divorce and a custody battle? My estranged and I live in two different school districts and we cannot...

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Ask Carolyn: July 15, 2022

Dear Carolyn: My settlement agreement with my ex-wife has me keeping our jointly owned, fully paid home.  A couple of years ago, I told her I believed she needed to file a quitclaim document to have her name removed from the...

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Ask Carolyn: July 1, 2022

Dear Carolyn: My ex wants alimony, but she had a relationship with a guy when we separated. She says I cannot prove she is doing anything, as she is cagey. There were hundreds of phone calls before separation. I know they are...

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Ask Carolyn: June 10, 2022

Dear Carolyn: My concern is my granddaughter. I always thought her mother was a little weird, but when my son divorced her, the weirdness increased. My granddaughter is only 5. My son and the mother share custody, but the mother...

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Ask Carolyn: Feb. 4, 2022

Dear Carolyn: I was accused of domestic violence, and nothing was found. I was boxed in by a public pretender to sign a consent form. The form states that there was no evidence, but there were accusations. They still have not...

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Ask Carolyn: Jan. 21, 2022

Dear Carolyn: There has been a 50B against my son and me.  The allegations are not true. How do l answer before the court date?   Carolyn Answers: False 50Bs are a challenging situation. You need to go to the court date and...

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Ask Carolyn: Jan. 7, 2022

Dear Carolyn, I am getting ready to separate. In looking through some records, I see my soon-to-be-ex bought an NFT. I also overheard him mention this to a friend. It was from Sotheby’s, so this may involve a lot of money....

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Ask Carolyn: Nov 5, 2021

Dear Carolyn, I hope we are finally getting a handle on the pandemic, but I have developed high blood pressure during the pandemic. My whole family is tense, and there are more angry outbursts than pre-pandemic. I want the old...

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Ask Carolyn: Oct. 1, 2021

Dear Carolyn, My husband has abused me our entire 40-year marriage. I have been a stay home mother but the children are all now grown and self-sufficient. On my many trips to the emergency room I have lied about the causes of...

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Ask Carolyn: July 30, 2021

Dear Carolyn, I pay child support and I am happy to pay a fair amount of child support for my two children, who reside primarily with their mother. I am an executive who makes bonuses from time to time, but the company does not...

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Ask Carolyn: July 9, 2021

Dear Carolyn,   My husband and I just returned from the Bahamas and I think we are going to be separating. While we were in the Bahamas, my husband took an interest in the Bahamian Sand Dollar. I was not sure what the appeal is...

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Ask Carolyn: June 25, 2021

Dear Carolyn, I am having trouble dealing with the “change” of divorce. Everything is so different. I feel sad. I’ve gained weight. With COVID-19, even my social structure has changed or evaporated. I really don’t want to pay a...

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Ask Carolyn: June 11, 2021

Dear Carolyn,   I own a small business, and I think my wife is planning on leaving me. All the signs are there. She stays out late, bought a new wardrobe and goes to the gym. So she leaves. How will my business be divided? I...

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Ask Carolyn: May 28, 2021

Dear Carolyn, My husband and I have been happily married for a decade. We had a thriving business together before COVID-19, but COVID decimated our industry. We have a daughter, age 7, in second grade. About the time COVID...

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Ask Carolyn: May 14, 2021

Dear Carolyn, I have a court date coming up. I am fearful about being questioned by the other attorney, who seems like a bully to me. The case is about the custody of my child. How do I handle the bully lawyer when he asks me...

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Ask Carolyn: April 2, 2021

Dear Carolyn, If my DVPO was filed in Wake County and it has expired, but I currently live in Guilford County, can I file my motion to return in Guilford County, or do I have to file in Wake County where the order originated?...

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Ask Carolyn: March 19, 2021

Dear Carolyn, My wife, Sally, and I separated in 2019 and divorced in 2020.  We filed taxes as married in 2019, with the refund direct deposited to Sally.  The first two stimulus checks were also direct deposited to her for both...

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Ask Carolyn: March 5, 2021

Dear Carolyn, I have two early teen children and left my ex over a year ago due to emotional abuse of myself and our son, and less so our daughter. During the course of about six months he refused to let the kids indoors during...

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Ask Carolyn: Feb. 19, 2021

Dear Carolyn,I have a custody dispute going on with the mother of my child and it never seems to end. I think the mother is mentally ill. She just doesn’t get the parenting thing. The therapist has suggested we get a child...

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Ask Carolyn: Feb. 5, 2021

My child support that I pay was determined by some method called “off the guidelines” a few years back. I own my own small business, but COVID-19 has reduced my profits. I need a lower child support number. From surfing the internet, I find Child Support Worksheet B, which seems to fit my situation since I have 50 percent of the time with my child. What does “off the guidelines” mean? Can I get a reduction in my child support?

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Ask Carolyn: Jan. 22, 2021

Dear Carolyn, I am in a business hit hard by COVID-19. I have asked that the court reconsider my child support. I have not been able to pay myself my usual salary of $200,000, but I did get some PPP-1 money. How do you think the...

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Ask Carolyn: Jan. 8, 2020

Dear Carolyn, So back in September, I was at my sister’s cul-de-sac bonfire with my dog. Well, a new kid to the cul-de-sac was petting my dog, and before I knew it, she hugged my dog around the neck and covered his face with her...

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