Dear Carolyn:

My computer is a mess. And I feel like I am being watched through my laptop. I am involved in a divorce. The family used my computer before my husband moved out. Now I have the laptop, and I am using the computer to communicate with my attorney. My attorney has my email address and sends legal documents through the computer. Is my ex-husband able to see these legal documents? Can I be stalked through my laptop?


Carolyn Answers:

Probably not a month goes by in my law practice that I don’t have a forensic expert find the estranged spouse has infiltrated a client’s computer. This is a most common problem. There are several solutions:

First, and probably the cheapest solution, is to get a new laptop for communications with your attorney and for banking. Change your password monthly. Do not let anyone else use this laptop. Keep it locked up if you are not around. Also, get a new email address. He could have your old email and password and be logging in as you. I mention banking because you do not want your ex moving money out of your accounts. Get a new cloud account for backup of your computer.

Second, a digital forensic investigator can analyze your laptop and your phone to see if there are inappropriate IP address accesses. The list of remote access programs and email blast programs that can run in the background of your computer is quite long. For example, one program forwards all your emails to another email, and this can run in the background of the computer. You’ll never know unless you analyze the computer to determine if this program has been implanted.

Third, please check to see if your computer data is being backed up to a cloud account that is also used by your ex.

Cybercrime and cybersecurity are quickly changing. You have to protect your phone and your computer, particularly if you are in divorce litigation.





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